Honestly, we don’t need these self-help or motivational books/articles to read or listen to, whatever medium we choose, but, the way we brought up by the system around us, be it society, education or emotional system, all teach things which are contradictory to the real working of life.

I am being part of this system learnt, how to compete in the school, how to be better than anyone in any field I am in, if I am making an art it should be the best else no-one will give a damn about it. If we feel anxious about the exams because the preparation is not well, call a friend and ask where he is, if he’s less prepared than you, it makes you comfortable, if he has covered more of the course than you, anxiety boosts up. When we grow to a working class, we compare our salaries with others to get the same feelings good or bad, basis what others are earning as compared to us.

In-fact, we are constantly told that sharing your pain reduces it, Isn’t it BULLSHIT?

Sharing our pain just feels normalised for sometime until someone is talking about it with us, that too when they are talking in our favour. For example, when you have a breakup in your relationship, it feels good when a so called friend is telling you that you don’t deserve him or her, you are much better than them and you will get someone who would treat you like prince/princess (another BULLSHIT…!, Nobody, if at all, your parents, can treat you like prince/princess, not because you are not worth it, because the person who loves you, has his feelings also and wants to be treated same way from you at the same time whereas parents biologically do not want to be treated that way from you).

So the common theme you’ll find above is, the system is forcing us to talk to someone whenever we feel sad or bad or mad but don’t talk to yourself. Ignore the pain whenever possible, find the reason which makes you feel that the pains doesn’t belong to you and it is someone’s fault all the time.

And the reality kicks in, by the age of 30-35 or when you are married for 3-4 years or when you have achieved whatever materialistic goal, you had in mind or when you have friends which are only your drink partners once or twice a month.

This is the time, when you have the same feelings about life, job, relationship etc. but there is no one who is waiting to listen to you, there is no-one who is saying ‘you don’t deserve it or deserve something better’. Now you have been tired of comparing yourself to others, have been tired of being on the top and suddenly you have another competition popups who earns more than you, looks better than you or have better car or house than you have.

And you wonder, what the heck is going on, when this is going to be finished.

Since you don’t have anyone but the books, videos or podcast to help you. which don’t actually tell you the fake reality of the world but the true reflection of the world.

These articles & books are created by the people, who have been pissed off with life like you, and found their solitude in writing their experiences. They aim that whatever they have learnt in their life should be given to people as early as possible, so that whenever you feel low, you take full responsibility of the whatever happened and take time to be with yourself and know yourself more.

I will never say that there something you’ll learn and will apply that in future but I definitely know, you will know more about yourself and knowing ourselves brings clarity in mind, it says on our face that we are wrong and lets us face that…for the time being, makes us feel what we are. Knowing about ourselves more, changes us from within , makes us more empathetic and makes us more accepting to ourselves and others.

Love is a product of clarity, the more we know about ourselves or someone else, the more we accept them and the more we accept them as different than ourselves not better or worse, the more we are open to convey our true reality and when we are able to express ourselves clearly, we start to love that person, even-if it is ourselves.

That’s the reason we have heard that books are your best friends because they give you a reflection of you to yourself.

Ending with lots of love..!